Sex dreams are totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, they can be a sign that you are looking for excitement in your life.
But what if you dreamed about someone other than your partner? What if it was a sibling, friend, or even a family member?
1. Practice lucid dreaming
It may sound counterintuitive, but lucid dreaming can help you learn more about yourself. It can even help you with real-life tasks, such as improving your posture or rehearsing for a presentation. This is because you can practice the same techniques in your dreams as you would do in your waking life, and if you’re able to separate your mind from your body during the process, it will become easier to accomplish these goals.
It might seem shady to dream of having sex with someone you know, but this type of dream can be beneficial. It can represent a desire for adventure and exploration in your life. Dreaming about taking risks can also be a sign that you’re ready to move on from a past relationship and find something new.
Likewise, a dream about having sex with a celeb could be a sign of your desire to live in the spotlight or gain recognition. This can also be a warning to be careful around people who you might not trust. As with any dream, it’s important to analyze the deeper meaning behind it before interpreting it.
2. Change the scene
If you’ve had a few practice runs and are able to enter a lucid dream, it’s time to start changing the scene. Once you’re stable in your dream and you’ve done several reality checks, try approaching the person who is the focus of the scene. Kiss them, rub their body or even just stroking their hair and see what happens.
It’s possible that this will trigger a sexual response in the dream, which can be orgasmic if you get it right. But just as important, this is an opportunity to experiment with your sexual arousal in a safe environment.
For example, if you dream of your boss it might not mean that you’re in love with them, but rather, that your subconscious is becoming aware of your own power as a leader. And if you dream of having oral sex it could be a sign that you are craving intimacy and attention. Just make sure you discuss any potential concerns with your partner before trying this in real life.
3. Try to remember your dreams
It might sound counterintuitive, but if you want to have more sexy dreams, it’s a good idea to try to remember them. Dreaming helps your brain relax and decreases stress, and writing down what you dream about can help you recall it later.
The problem is that you’ll probably forget most of your dreams right as soon as you wake up. So, to increase your chances of capturing a steamy scene from your sleep, keep a journal by your bed and write down your dreams as soon as you wake up. There are plenty of aesthetically pleasing dream journals out there, but even just a regular notebook will work.
Dreams can offer many clues about your life. But, decoding them isn’t always easy. Some dreams are rooted in deeper emotions or past traumas, while others simply reflect your current emotional and sexual needs.
4. Bring a sexy person into your dreams
You might have heard that dreaming about sex is a bad idea, but the truth is, it can actually be beneficial. Sex dreams can give you insight into your sexual desires, inspire fantasies to act out with a partner, and even help you relax and lower your stress levels when you wake up.
Dreaming about sex can also help you get more comfortable with intimacy, which is important for romantic relationships. Plus, if you’re having sex in your dreams, it can be a good way to test out potential positions or moves with your partner before actually trying them out IRL.
So if you’re ready to start dreaming about sex, here are some tips for bringing a sexy person into your dreams:
5. Try to get out of your comfort zone
Even if you don’t like full-on pornography, trying to step outside your comfort zone can still lead to sexy dreams. Try listening to sensual music or watching sexy movies before bed to help get your mind in the right place. And don’t be afraid to flirt with a hot guy, either. A little sexting might get you some interesting dreams!
A sex dream about an ex
If you’re having a sexy dream about an ex, it could be symbolic of a place of pain or a past relationship that left you feeling empty. Alternatively, it could be your subconscious way of expressing a desire to reconnect with the person in question.
A sex dream about a family member
Dreaming about your sibling or your parents might sound icky and creepy, but it’s completely normal. According to Wallace, these dreams usually show up because of admirable traits you see in your kin that you wish you had yourself. So, think about their positive qualities and try to emulate them in your own life. After all, your sexy dream might inspire you to spice up your real-life love life!