There are many people of all genders who enjoy anal sex. However, some of us may be confused about what it feels like.
Oftentimes, people bottoming for the first time worry about hygiene. It’s normal to be concerned about what you put in your ass and how it will come out (which is why douching can help).
But if we know more about what anal sex feels like, we might be less hesitant.
1. It Feels Good
While it might seem weird to some people, many men enjoy anal sex. The anus is full of nerves and blood vessels, and it has its own erogenous zone, a thick layer of muscles called the pubococcygeus that is rich in pleasure points. Anal sex, when it’s done properly with lots of lube and ongoing communication between partners can bring any eager bottom to a climax.
Besides the anus, the prostate is another area of sexual pleasure for many bottoms. Stimulation of the anus and dick can be pleasurable with fingers, or sex toys like nipple clamps and rim jobs can be used to great effect. Some people might experience a “prostate orgasm” during anal penetration, which is said to be one of the most intense orgasms men can have.
If you are thinking about trying anal sex for the first time, start slow and don’t jump in headfirst. It’s a good idea to get familiar with the sensations of your anus by pushing your fingers inside, or even getting a high quality anal trainer kit and some lube and practicing at home.
While there are many gay men who love anal sex, there are also plenty of other things they enjoy more. For example, a 2012 survey of 500 men found that during foreplay, most guys prefer kissing, oral sex and handjobs over anal sex. It’s important to remember that sex is about pleasure, and whatever kind of sex feels good for you is the right thing.
2. It Feels Natural
Anal sex can feel very natural for many people, but there are certain precautions that must be taken when first trying it. If you are new to anal, it is recommended that you clean yourself thoroughly before the penetration, and have lube handy. It is also a good idea to have a towel nearby just in case of any mess that may occur during the anal sex.
A lot of people, both gay and straight, enjoy dick play and anal sex. Some people even have a fetish for frotting, which is when you rub the anus area of another person with your fingers or use a butt plug, also known as a butt prick. Enjoying butt play and anal sex has nothing to do with sexual orientation, it’s simply where there is a high concentration of nerve endings and erectile tissue in the body.
Even though most of us think of the anus as the “G-spot,” it is still a very natural part of the body for males to want to explore and massage. It is the gateway to a whole world of pleasure, including prostate orgasms, which are said to be one of the most intense orgasms that men can experience. It is even possible for men who consider themselves exclusively tops to enjoy prostate stimulation with their fingers or a variety of sex toys.
3. It Feels Safe
If you are a first time gay bottom and your partner is putting his penis in your anus, don’t panic. It may hurt a bit at first, but it should get better and feel good. It will help to take a deep breath and relax the pubococcygeus muscles, as well as to practice feeling around your anal with your fingers before hand. The area is quite delicate and is sensitive to pain and pressure. It is important to remember to communicate with your partner throughout the process and to avoid tightening up too much.
As with any sexual activity, it is important to be clean and to use lube to prevent friction, irritation, and discomfort. It is also important to communicate with your partner and to stop the activity if it becomes uncomfortable or painful. Lastly, it is important to take care of your anus and to keep it free from infections and blockages.
Most men who have anal sex enjoy it, but there are some men who don’t. The fact that a man enjoys engaging his anus sexually does not tell us anything about his sexual orientation, just as enjoying kissing does not. There are many different kinds of sexual pleasure and no one kind is right for everyone. However, if you are a man who likes anal sex, there is nothing wrong with that and there is no reason to be ashamed of it.
4. It Feels Uncomfortable
Regardless of your sexual orientation, having anal sex can feel a bit uncomfortable at first. For starters, most beginner bottoms have to work on gaining the muscle control needed to push their anus in and out of the dick with ease. In addition, many newbies may have a hard time getting an orgasm.
This is because the pleasure centers in your anus are different than those in your cock, and it takes time to switch the focus from one area to another. If you are experiencing a lack of orgasm, try pushing harder and switching up your positions. You might also need more lube than you think. Start with a silicone-based anal lube for beginners and progress to more powerful options as you become comfortable with anal play.
It’s also important to remember that anal sex can make you have to pee more frequently. This is because fucking the anal can stimulate the bladder more than a regular penis does, which causes you to have to pee. This is completely normal and is no indication that you are gay.
Finally, if you’re new to anal and don’t find it blissful, don’t give up! Just try experimenting with more dynamic top-bottom roles and other types of sex. It’s likely that once you’re more experienced, it will feel much better.